If you balanced your weight, what would your life look like?
The superficial stuff that you see in magazines probably springs to mind first. Bikini body, crop tops and a tight-fitting dress.
What about the deep stuff. The life-changing stuff? Like keeping up with your kids when they want to play ALL DAY outside (like seriously, do kids ever get tired!), or doing that epic yoga pose you’ve always wanted to do, or being able to go out for dinner with your friends and feel so freaking confident in that dress you’ve been eyeing off for months, AND looking back at photos and sharing them on social because YOU LOOK HOT. What about how excited you feel when you go shopping and the dress you see on the rack looks even better on. Those invites for beach dates no longer feel scary and you jump at the chance to try new things because you are totally rocking YOU.
All that deep stuff isn’t made up. It’s actually exactly what I’m achieving right now. After YEARS of dieting mentality and believing I had to have a ‘bikini body’ to be successful I’ve realised actually, it’s the deep stuff that matters.
If you’re not happy with your weight right now, know that I feel your pain. I’ve come from both ends of the weight spectrum (so thin that I would cry in the changing room because the dress I so desperately wanted to look amazing in looked like a sack, and then that post-baby-body feeling) and I know that both felt totally off-balance for me. It’s not about the weight, it’s about the deep stuff. How you feel and how those feelings are reflected outwardly (you know, self-confidence, energy, happiness – that deep stuff). That deep stuff makes life magical, even if you are totally rocking self-acceptance right now (go you!).
Your mind and how you think and talk to yourself matters. And it matters more than you might think. Ever heard the saying “you are what you eat”? I’ll let you in on a secret…you are what you think, because how you think defines how you eat, move and take action.
These mindset shifts have helped me to balance my weight after babies and feel confident, happy and energised. Let me share them with you too!
The 4 mindset shifts that saw me balance my weight after babies
1. How you talk to yourself matters.
Stop for a second and reflect on the comments you’ve made to yourself today. Have you shamed yourself for eating something that wasn’t ‘part of the plan’? Have you called yourself fat, skinny or perhaps even unlovable?
Ask yourself if you would talk the way you have to yourself this morning to a 3 year old child, or to your best friend? My guess is that you would never speak to your best friend or a young child the way you speak to yourself. YOU MATTER. And it starts with the way you talk to yourself. How can you balance your weight when you are fighting with your body?
Take a step back and remember to talk kindly to yourself. As Carrie Bradshaw once wisely said, “Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first”.
2. RESTRICTION AND DEPRIVATION creates fear and obsession.
Have you ever told yourself that you can’t have chocolate for 8 weeks because you are on a diet and chocolate isn’t allowed? And then ALL you’ve thought about is chocolate? In fact, you can picture exactly how it would melt in your mouth, and you swear that everywhere you walk you see chocolate…even in places you never knew chocolate existed.
Restriction and deprivation so often leads to obsession. You become obsessed with the food you are ‘not allowed to have’ so much so that when you are ‘allowed’ to have it you go crazy. Then the guilt sets in.
Move away from restriction and deprivation and instead focus on CHOOSING. Choose foods that serve you well, that make you feel energised and content and CHOOSE when you have those foods. The simple words “I CHOOSE” puts you in the power seat, not the food.
The only time you should feel guilt when eating is if you stole the food.
3. UNFOLLOW negativity.
Know where you draw your energy from. Do you take on the emotions of others? I know I do. If you feel sad when watching the news or angry when you see an insensitive comment from someone on your social media feed, UNFOLLOW. This isn’t about naivety or ignorance, but about how you draw your energy and how you best serve yourself and others. If you are constantly comparing yourself to those on social media which in turn makes you feel negative towards yourself, simply hit unfollow. If watching the news draws your energy down, turn it off. If spending time with someone leaves you emotionally drawn and exhausted, spend less time with that person.
You’re probably wondering what this has to do with balancing weight, right? Do you feel ‘heavy’ when dealing with heavy emotions, and ‘light’ when happy, content and as though life is flowing just as it should? Our energy matters.
No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.
4. Quit the cheat meals.
The word ‘cheat’ implies you are doing something you shouldn’t. It suggests a food is ‘bad’ or at least not ‘good’ because you have to cheat to be able to have it. Shift your focus away from ‘cheat meals’ and give up that language for good. Choose to INDULGE with full awareness and enjoy every single mouthful, then simply move on. Not sure how to do this? Read this article about reflective mindful eating.
Let’s move away from restrictive dieting and towards mindful eating for weight balance.
Keeping up with my kiddies means more to me than a bikini body ever will.
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